If you’re reading this blog, chances are you are working, for yourself, to gain experience and make some moolah. You’re probably working on your own business, your own gig or working for a company.

There are times when you feel it’s totally cool. So far, so good.

Have you ever felt like crap when:

  • You look at your pay check and it doesn't seem to be big enough (Business books say that the market pays you what you're worth.) Therefore you're starting to feel like you aren't worth much?
  • You offer something mutually beneficial like a product, service or partnership then a gate-keeper shoots you down for some absurd reason and refuses to listen to you.
  • You're applying for a gig or a promotion then the low intelligence of someone kicks in and despite your dazzling array or display of skills, working knowledge and experience they kick you in the balls and refuse to hire you because of your lack of formal education (yes an MBA), or what course you took in college (they say it wasn't a match), lack of years in a certain field (does it really take years to gage experience?) or the number of years doesn't match your asking price.
  • You put in long hours at work and had became an expert in your job and you even volunteer your extra time because you advocate what your company is all about but they refuse to acknowledge you and worse your title stays the same despite being a specialist, event-organizer, problem solver they still call you by the position the HR trainee selected for you i.e. clerk, data encoder, sales staff.
  • You're prospect says the product or service you're offering is good but they don't feel like paying you what you're asking and smothers you with the excuse it doesn't seem to be worth it.
  • You look at your bank account and things do not add up.

Shit balls.

I got shot down too. Life felt like it sucks. People are always imposing who you are and what you’re worth and the worse part is that at one point I believed them.

I wrote a post about How to be confident for shy people. I sometimes write a list for what I have and what I can offer. No I do not mean cliché job interview answers or sales answers.

Let’s set the record straight:

  • Yes the market pays you what they think you're worth but they always aim to get it at the lowest possible price and there are buggers who will use cheap shots to keep the prices down.. There are too many people who will to waste your time on the people who wont.
  • Gatekeepers are gatekeepers. Deal with it. Call again or go around them. Do not waste any time with them. Continue offering what you have and if they don't listen offer it to somebody else. The market is big enough. There are people looking for your product or service and will gladly pay for it. If you're being shot down or rejected then you're just barking at the wrong tree. Thank the people who rejected you because you just used them for practice. Move on to the next company.
  • Some people do not see your value because they are looking for something else. That’s a good thing. I wouldn't want to imagine myself in a situation where I'll be working with or for someone who doesn't respect me. Fire their asses. It’s a two way relationship and should be mutually beneficial. Walk away from deals that will make you miserable. Every moment you spend with the wrong one is time wasted because you should spend it with the right people.
  • You are not your bank account. If you’re not happy with the money you have betted do something about it. There are a lot of places to get ideas from but you have a brain and I’m sure you’ll be able to use it. Your ideas are better than someone else for your situation because nobody knows your situation like you do.

The truth is that you’re better than who you think you are. Just keep going. Things are a lot better once you hit your breakthrough so I’ll wait for you on the other side.


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