Your first reaction is usually outdated.
In a lot of cases, the first reaction is a knee jerk emotional reaction or response to something from your past.
For example:
In the past.
For the longest time.
I’ve been terrified of thinking or planning my life long term or about relationships or putting those words together.
Because I’m afraid being in a situation that after braving challenges, obstacles and making sacrificies to reach that point.
Then I’ll be betrayed at the end.
I even have a quote in my head that “what’s sad about betrayal is that it never comes from an enemy.”
I am no longer in that situation but I still get that response from time to time.
Your first response is an answer that you came up with long ago.
That you now use as a shortcut.
Instead of actually thinking of an answer.
We sometimes think that the first reaction or our honest response to a question but it’s often not true.
Instead, you can ask for some time to consider a better answer.
These days, I’d like to give my responses more thought.
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